Valentine's Day for Him
Yes, ladies, Valentine’s Day is for your man too! Even though we know more about what the husband has been preparing for his wife, we also have an idea that she is preparing something very special for him. We learned that over their ten years of getting to know each other that they have taken the time to find out what each other needs to feel loved and cared about. They have learned each other’s “Love Language.”
Are you familiar with Gary Chapman’s book by that same title? If not, check it out. Men love to feel appreciated and to know that they have a positive impact on us. If you want more from your man, give him what he wants – not what you think he wants. This means that you must pay close attention to what he tells you that will make him feel loved and cared about. Then you give this to him. We call this the “Platinum Rule.” You “do unto others” as they would like to be done unto.
Even if you are not happy about some of the things going on in your relationship, if it is a relationship that has value to you and is worth fighting for, take a first step to turn things around. My mother told me years ago that you can attract more bees with honey than with vinegar. Be the change you want to experience on this very special day. And let this day be an opportunity to set an intention to have more days throughout the year as “Valentine’s Day.”
Here’s the other thing. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money. Find out what makes his heart sing and prepare as much of it yourself. Most men love great food. What is his favorite? They also love special time alone with their woman. You can get really creative here. Get the idea?
One thing we know for sure is that committed love relationships are energized by co-creating and remembering great memories. Let that be a focus for the man you love. It only takes one person to get the momentum going. Why not you?
Jesse and I are sending you warm and loving wishes for the best Valentine’s Day ever. You and your man deserve it.
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