Yes, ladies, Valentine’s Day is for your man too! Even though we know more about what the husband has been preparing for his wife, we also have an idea that she is preparing something very special for him. We learned that over their ten years of getting to know each other that they have taken the time to find out what each other needs to feel loved and cared about. They have learned each other’s “Love Language.”

Are you familiar with Gary Chapman’s book by that same title? If not, check it out. Men love to feel appreciated and to know that they have a positive impact on us. If you want more from your man, give him what he wants – not what you think he wants. This means that you must pay close attention to what he tells you that will make him feel loved and cared about. Then you give this to him. We call this the “Platinum Rule.” You “do unto others” as they would like to be done unto.

Even if you are not happy about some of the things going on in your relationship, if it is a relationship that has value to you and is worth fighting for, take a first step to turn things around. My mother told me years ago that you can attract more bees with honey than with vinegar. Be the change you want to experience on this very special day. And let this day be an opportunity to set an intention to have more days throughout the year as “Valentine’s Day.”

Here’s the other thing. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money. Find out what makes his heart sing and prepare as much of it yourself. Most men love great food. What is his favorite? They also love special time alone with their woman. You can get really creative here. Get the idea?

One thing we know for sure is that committed love relationships are energized by co-creating and remembering great memories. Let that be a focus for the man you love. It only takes one person to get the momentum going. Why not you?

Jesse and I are sending you warm and loving wishes for the best Valentine’s Day ever. You and your man deserve it.

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Melva and I recently met and have gotten to know a really fine young man. He and his wife are celebrating their 10 year anniversary on Valentine’s Day. Man, he’s gone all out. He’s given her a few hundred dollars for a new outfit; paid for her appointment with her hairdresser for her hair, makeup, nails—you know, the whole works. He’s reserved a special room at her favorite restaurant and invited their closest friends to join them. He’s written a special letter to her expressing his appreciation and gratitude for their 10 years together. He will read and present it to her at the dinner in front of their friends. Now if that wasn’t enough, he’s been working overtime to make enough money to surprise her with a $2000 necklace that he’ll also give her at the dinner.

Over the past several weeks, it has been heartwarming to hear him talk about this special day. You can see him just bubble up with excitement in anticipation. Clearly, all of this is being done sincerely from his heart—not because he’s messed up and trying to make amends. He’s doing it because he truly loves his wife and wants this Valentine’s Day to be one that is memorable for both of them. Guys, he has the right idea. I hope you get the message.

Times are hard for a lot of people these days and you may not be able to do all that you’d like for your special lady even though you’d like to. The idea is to do what you can and let her know that you wanted to do a lot more. She’ll appreciate knowing that and is likely to be even more appreciative of what you’ve done to acknowledge her. Let your special lady know that you appreciate her, that she’s special and romance her.

Make her feel beautiful, desirable, wanted, and ignite them flame of passion in your relationship. Some guys might say, well, what about me? Yes, it does go both ways. So, check out what Melva has to say to women in tomorrow’s Valentine’s Day article. But guys, right now, just focus on your part in giving your woman a memorable Valentine’s Day. You’ll not regret it.

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