It’s customary for many people to make resolutions for the New Year. You’ve probably already got a pretty long list of things you want to change. As you are considering things you’d like to change in 2010, we’d like to propose that you include improving your marriage among your resolutions. And to enable you to do that, we’d like to offer the following three suggestions:
Compliment More—Criticize Less
If you want to make a positive change in your relationship, express your appreciations and gratitude to your partner more. We tend to tell other people about how much we appreciate about our partners but we don’t always communicate it to them. Our partners would like to hear it too so tell them—every day. Yes, we did say every day! Look for things to compliment—even the small things. The more you look, the more you’ll find.
Create a Consistent Regular Time To Be Together To Have Fun
We recommend that couples establish a weekly “date night” to enjoy each other’s company. Doing it consistently is the key. You also don’t need to spend a lot of money. In fact, we recommend that you find free or minimal cost stuff to do that you can enjoy. We suggest that you take turns alternating responsibility for planning the date night activity. Allow yourself to go and do things that you normally wouldn’t do. The bottom line—have fun!
Learn How To Communicate Better
The #1 problem in most relationships is an inability to communicate effectively. The ability to communicate successfully is a skill that must be learned. Resolve to learn how to talk to each other in a way that enables you to work together, to reduce conflicts, and to maintain a close, intimate connection. Let us know if you’d like help in this area of your relationship.
We want you to know that we are wishing you an abundance of happiness and success.