Unfortunately, many couples just don’t know how to fight fair in marriage. We see it consistently in our marriage counseling sessions. Understand that fighting is unavoidable because couples have different opinions about a lot of things. There are times when they agree—and others when they don’t. The point is to not avoid fights, but to learn how to fight fair and grow from what you learn… together.
* Discuss Only One Topic At A Time
Don’t “kitchen sink” by bringing up everything you’ve been unhappy about. Stay focused on one topic at a time. Don’t bring up anything else until you’ve successfully resolved the first one.
* Listening Without Interrupting
If you’re going to get resolved, both of you must feel heard and understood. You are likely to have different opinions, memories, and points of view. That’s OK. Just listen to understand.
* Fight For A “Win–Win” Resolution
You can only win when you both win.
Learning how to fight fair in marriage will help you maintain the loving connection both of you deserve.
