Comments on: How Does Divorce Affect Children? http://mfgmarriage.com/how-does-divorce-affect-children/ Couples and Marriage Counseling, Imago Workshops, Pre-Marital Counseling Tue, 08 May 2012 21:05:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mikeomerta Vasquez http://mfgmarriage.com/how-does-divorce-affect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-572 Mikeomerta Vasquez Wed, 24 Aug 2011 16:34:00 +0000 http://mfgmarriage.com/?p=869#comment-572 I do all those thing with my kid and more, yet my wife will find fault in who I am and is unhappy.  I said something the wrong way or criticized her about something.  I find the problem with marriage is woman thinks a man will change as life changes and they don't.  I bet your husband was that way before you married him. As for me, I am very sarcastic before I was married and still am. Now my wife complains about it.  The second problem is men think woman wont change and they do. I remember before being married my wife was actually fun. Now all she does is want to sit home. Overall marriage aint easy and if you dont have one person willing to change for the other, it aint going to work.  In my case, my wife wants me to change who I am because of the simple fact she is tired of my personality.  When one spouse wants the other to change, that is when the problem starts.  For marriage to work, except people for who they are and find fun things to do together and your marriage will last. If you try and change people and just do the same old routine everyday, say good by to your marriage, male or female.  I do all those thing with my kid and more, yet my wife will find fault in who I am and is unhappy.  I said something the wrong way or criticized her about something.  I find the problem with marriage is woman thinks a man will change as life changes and they don’t.  I bet your husband was that way before you married him. As for me, I am very sarcastic before I was married and still am. Now my wife complains about it. 

The second problem is men think woman wont change and they do. I remember before being married my wife was actually fun. Now all she does is want to sit home. Overall marriage aint easy and if you dont have one person willing to change for the other, it aint going to work.  In my case, my wife wants me to change who I am because of the simple fact she is tired of my personality. 

When one spouse wants the other to change, that is when the problem starts.  For marriage to work, except people for who they are and find fun things to do together and your marriage will last. If you try and change people and just do the same old routine everyday, say good by to your marriage, male or female. 

]]> By: Kimab83 http://mfgmarriage.com/how-does-divorce-affect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-570 Kimab83 Fri, 05 Aug 2011 13:28:00 +0000 http://mfgmarriage.com/?p=869#comment-570 I am the mother of two little boys who were 8 and 6 when my husband and I divorced.  We were married 11 years and the last 5 were very unhappy and tense.  My children were struggling with the unhappy and tense atmosphere in our home.  Their father was never home.  He was either working or out with his friends til all hours of the night.  When he was home he was locked in a room on a computer playing video games and ignored me and the children.  Til this day he has never watched his boys open christmas gifts on Christmas morning or blow out the candles on their birthday cake.  Now that we are divorced my boys are happier.  He still doesn't spend much time with them but when he does he gives them a lot of attention and they have been able to establish a close relationship.  Sometimes,  when you have tried everything, counseling, therapy, talking, church, and even trial separation, and it doesn't change anything, you realize you have to do what is best for you and your children.  Now they have a mother who is happy and not depressed and stressed.  They have a father who is attentive and who has a close relationship with them.  Divorce is very painful and should never be entered into lightly but sometimes it is for the best. I am the mother of two little boys who were 8 and 6 when my husband and I divorced.  We were married 11 years and the last 5 were very unhappy and tense.  My children were struggling with the unhappy and tense atmosphere in our home.  Their father was never home.  He was either working or out with his friends til all hours of the night.  When he was home he was locked in a room on a computer playing video games and ignored me and the children.  Til this day he has never watched his boys open christmas gifts on Christmas morning or blow out the candles on their birthday cake.  Now that we are divorced my boys are happier.  He still doesn’t spend much time with them but when he does he gives them a lot of attention and they have been able to establish a close relationship.  Sometimes,  when you have tried everything, counseling, therapy, talking, church, and even trial separation, and it doesn’t change anything, you realize you have to do what is best for you and your children.  Now they have a mother who is happy and not depressed and stressed.  They have a father who is attentive and who has a close relationship with them.  Divorce is very painful and should never be entered into lightly but sometimes it is for the best.

]]> By: Melva Johnson http://mfgmarriage.com/how-does-divorce-affect-children/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Melva Johnson Fri, 16 Jul 2010 13:48:22 +0000 http://mfgmarriage.com/?p=869#comment-36 It is true that divorce is traumatic and understanding the impact on children escapes most of us. Children love their parents and even though they see and are affected negatively by the conflict and break up of their caretakers, through magical thinking many fixate on the good times they experienced with both as well as their desire for things to turn around. I applaud the author for giving a voice to these two children so that adults can learn about their internal struggle, vulnerability and the coping skills the children are developing that they will carry into their adult love relationships. It is true that divorce is traumatic and understanding the impact on children escapes most of us. Children love their parents and even though they see and are affected negatively by the conflict and break up of their caretakers, through magical thinking many fixate on the good times they experienced with both as well as their desire for things to turn around. I applaud the author for giving a voice to these two children so that adults can learn about their internal struggle, vulnerability and the coping skills the children are developing that they will carry into their adult love relationships.

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