Most people state that the #1 problem in their relationship is their inability to communicate. And their most common complaint is that they don’t feel heard because their partner does not listen to them. It’s ironic because when couples start dating, it is their talking, listening, hearing, sharing, and understanding each other that sealed the bonds of love.
If listening to each other and being heard was so important in bringing you together, does it not make sense that it would help you sustain a loving relationship over time?
One essential element in building a good marriage is when both partners feel loved, cared for, valued, and appreciated. Partners communicate these feelings by expressing positive complements to each other daily and focus on their partner’s positive traits and behaviors.
Many of us believe that love is an emotional feeling that comes over us when we meet our “soul mate” and that this feeling will last forever. We may conclude that as long as the feeling is there that we’re “in love” and that if the feeling goes, the love goes.
